I am reminded lately how unfair life can be. I’m not speaking so much as to the enormous tragedies such as tornadoes or earthquakes but more on the simpler human level. Someone I’m very close to is faced with the realities of how friendships can evolve and sometimes fade. Any of us more aged citizens have come to understand this over time however for some it is a new and raw experience. I can remember coming to this realization and it is not an easy reality to deal with at times.
There is and can be some good that comes of this though. One of the lessons I’ve learned over time is that not all friendships that seemingly end are necessarily over. They may return in a different form at some point in our lives. The thing is when we are young and formulating our life plan we think our friends will be with us the entire way. It simply isn’t true but we hang on to it anyway. These days the world is such a much smaller place and lives don’t just change within our own communities but more often we move to different areas, states and even for some countries. That disconnect is difficult especially if they are long enduring friendships.
I don’t offer a solution here because there is none. It is no different that telling someone how to raise a child or how to have a happy marriage….we each must find our own way. The thing I can offer (the only thing really) is for you youngsters out there to lean on some of us older self proclaimed wiser persons to help you through that adjustment.
The thing to always keep in mind is that the old adage that when one door closes another one opens. It is perhaps most relevant right now to this special person that made me think of this. Where perhaps one opportunity has faded there are new and exciting opportunities that await. With that said you must seek them out. They don’t always present themselves. The one thing I know deep in my heart is this person has only scratched the surface of what happiness is ahead.
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